5 Reasons for Lingerie Foreplay: Be Sexy Every Day

5 Reasons for Lingerie Foreplay: Be Sexy Every Day

You should wear lingerie even if you’re single.

Cosmo says: “Wear your slinkiest, laciest lingerie underneath your clothes, and then let him sneak a quick peek of the top of a stocking, a bra strap, or a bit of lace throughout the night.” It isn’t about him, Buttercup.

If you’ve followed me for any amount of time, then you’ve heard me say it starts with YOU. Like, I don’t wear my sexy lingerie for anyone but myself. My lingerie foreplay is for me. Sure, my husband loves it when I wear lingerie and he thinks it’s for him but it’s mostly for my own mental health benefits around my own body confidence.

Lingerie Foreplay

“It’s not about seducing men, it’s about embracing womanhood.”

Dita Von Teese

Spontaneous, fast sexual encounters can be very exciting. But, now imagine a long make-out session while wearing your favorite lingerie. See how hot that is? Lingerie and kissing (two of my favorite things) with your lover is so tantalizing that even those who say, “It looks better on the floor.”, are sure to change their minds.

You thought you were going to read article on how to seduce your man in sexy lingerie. Didn’t you? Here’s where I make the switch. You should wear lingerie for no one else but your HOT self. That’s right, you sexy bitch! 💋

Not only will sexy underwear make you feel more confident, empowered and desirable, it’s also a tantalizing feeling to know that you have a seductive secret hidden under your outer clothes.


What is Lingerie?

Let’s start with the basics because when I talk to people about wearing lingerie, they immediately think smut. Sure, lingerie can be smutty but not always. According to Wikipedia, Lingerie is a category of primarily women’s clothing including undergarments (mainly brassieres), sleepwear, and lightweight robes. The specific choice of the word is often motivated by an intention to imply that the garments are alluring, fashionable or both. I define lingerie as any little secret that makes you feel sexy.

For some women, lingerie can be intimidating because it promotes sexuality in a manner that you have never experienced. As women, we are often taught to feel shame for our bodies and our sexuality. Lingerie allows us to break away from this mentality and accept your body for all that it is.

You are sexy enough, smart enough, beautiful enough and strong enough. Believe it and never let insecurity run your life.


You don’t need a lover to love lingerie. You just need a body. Your body. Your body is perfect designed and deserves some special attention.

Lingerie is also one of the best ways to spice up your day with such little effort. On days where I wear lingerie underneath my clothes, I feel a bit more sexy because I have this exciting little secret that only I know. That sexiness translates into a confidence boost you didn’t know you needed. There’s something about lingerie that can make you feel both feminine and powerful. 

Need more reason to include lingerie in your every day? Here are my top 5 reasons you need lingerie, even if you’re single:

An Act of Self Love

It’s so important to find as many ways as possible for us to show ourselves love, and if we’re single, why shouldn’t we take all the love we would be showering on our significant other(s) and instead shower ourselves with it.A positive body image sure isn’t hurting anyone, and that’s exactly where lingerie comes in.

If you can be positive enough with your own body to allow yourself the pleasure of searching for and eventually finding that perfect piece of lingerie that hugs you in all the right places and shows just as much or as little as you want to show — that piece of lingerie that subtly reflects your sexual personality and looks good on you — then we can at least say that we’ve won the battle for our physical body, even if it’s not nearly the end of the [very real] war on women.

Reclaiming lingerie as a source of self-love instead of self-objectification is just one way to change the tides of that war

Boost of Body Confidence

As the saying goes, ‘what you wear underneath matters‘. And it is so true! Each time I put my beautifully crafted lingerie on I literally feel like a goddess. You will love the amazing feeling of self confidence that sexy underwear can give, filling you up with a special warm inner glow. A welcome spell of sunshine on a cold cloudy day.

Luxury lingerie is truly empowering and there is this kind of ravishing, sensuous sensation you will get when wearing it. Your underwear can give you a huge boost of confidence, improve your mood and make you feel great throughout the day.

Your Femininity

You work hard building your career, perhaps becoming a perfect mother, partner, lover and friend. You can oh-so-easily overlook yourself.

We all must remember to compliment ourselves, love ourselves for who we are and award ourselves for our achievements?

The feeling that comes from doing something just for yourself, treating yourself to something nice, something special, just because you worked so hard, is rewarding.

So why not invest into a glamorous set of luxury lingerie and surround yourself with a bit of an extravagance? immerse yourself into this beautiful feeling of self esteem.

Love yourself, because happiness originates from within.

Wearing lingerie, you should be able to love that it makes you feel amazing — on your own terms. Yes, it presents your self as an image to look at, but you are choosing to be looked at. You are looking at yourself being looked at, and in a place of personal comfort. This is thrilling and empowering.

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Your Own Sexuality

You don’t have to let media culture dictate the perception you have of your own body. Yes, the media and fashion industries have the ability to influence your standards of beauty, and they are already working systematically against you. 

I believe one of the most important reasons I have for wearing lingerie for yourself is: Understanding yourself as a sexual being. Wear something special for yourself to celebrate the love you have with your sexual self, a time for exploring and appreciating the sexual being you are, finding out what that means for you. 

Celebrate every woman who has discovered self-love all over again, a newfound sexiness they thought they lost or never had.

Celebration of You

You don’t have to wait for that special occasion, the honeymoon, or date night to finally dig out your pretty lingerie from the deepest corner of your closet and dress yourself up. Do not limit yourself, wear your luxurious underwear every day and enjoy it. Life’s too short not to.

Wear it to work, when you’re out and about or meeting up with friends. It will make you feel extra-special and maybe a little bit playful due to the thought that no one knows the reason of your confidence.

“It’s so easy to tar lingerie with the classic “objectification” brush. But I feel that is more a question of comfort, perception, confidence and taste.



It’s far too easy to allow yourself to live day-to-day in mediocre undies and maybe dress-up in sexy underwear occasionally. The benefits of wearing lingerie are too numerous to ignore. Why would you not invest in something beautiful that can make you feel amazing every day?

 When buying lingerie for the first time, pay extra attention to how it fits on you. Good lingerie should be well-fitted, comfortable, and empowering. If it feels tight or unsupportive, it is not right for you. Finding your perfect match might take some time, but trust me, it is so worth it. Lingerie doesn’t have to be overly sexy with lots of laces and straps. Sometimes, the simplest designs are the best ones. And most importantly, buy and wear what truly reflects your personality and style.

Before falling in love with anyone else, fall in love with your body first and explore your sexuality with some lingerie!

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Sex ExpertNicole Buratti is an internationally recognized Sex Expert. She is the creator and author of The GEMMA Method®, a sex writer and speaker. Nicole is available for private sex, dating, and relationship coaching. Connect with her HERE.

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  • Robyn Jones
    October 14, 2020 at 9:03 pm

    To me, lingerie promotes femininity and because of that, it is sexy. It is luxurious, so I like the idea of wearing it as a way to promote self confidence. I will have to try that. By the way, I am so glad I had the right definition of lingerie the whole time!

  • Toniann
    October 14, 2020 at 9:34 pm

    Loved everything about this!

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