The term ‘feminine’ has meant many different things throughout time, from pretty-looking women, to motherly types who were good at domestic chores, to those who excelled at flirting but not much else. Halfway through the 20th century the feminist movement became a serious force, but with it came confusion about what being feminine really meant.
I truly believe that the ultimate expression for every woman is to emphasize her femininity and reveal her sensual side. After all, the instinct to display and attract people is innate. The desire to be sexy and that innate sexiness of the female body is here to stay, no matter how it is politicized. Girl, if you’ve got it, flaunt it. If you don’t have it, allow me to help you get some!
Before we understand what feminine energy or essence is and why it is important that women cultivate it, we need to first talk about the realities women are faced with today.
Femininity isn’t a concept used much these days simply because, in my opinion, it doesn’t serve women who fight for equal rights. Talking about qualities women have that are different from the qualities men have means focusing on inequality between men and women because it emphasizes the fact that men and women are different.
As women, we are bombarded with messages of equality, strength, and empowerment and that is an incredible movement to witness. But at times, it feels like it’s becoming too much of a battle that I’m not sure is worth fighting for. The concept of true equality has become something we start to question more and more.
Today, I really wanted to talk about classic (or traditional) femininity as it relates to our modern world. This is a subject that has recently taken root within my heart.
Now, when I refer to femininity as a lost art, I am specifically referring to the classic values and traits that used to be so strongly associated with femininity.
Of course, our modern world has broadened and challenged the ideas of traditional womanhood. Femininity has been redefined. I think it’s wonderful that women are empowered to pursue and embody their own ideals and interpretations of womanhood. Modern women can be strong, fierce, independent, and feminine because of these challenged stereotypes.
However, while I do think this new femininity is wonderful, they do tend to overshadow the beauty of more traditionally feminine traits.
Just because you can be fierce doesn’t mean it’s wrong to be gentle. Just because you’re passionately independent doesn’t mean it’s wrong to be family-focused.
What Femininity Isn’t:
There are a lot of myths and negative connotations that are associated with traditional femininity. Let me address them:
- Classic femininity doesn’t equate to weakness.
- It’s not about oppressive rules and restrictions.
- It’s not about fancy frills and dresses.
So, with all that being said, you might be wondering… what is classic femininity?
I’m so glad you asked.
What Femininity is:
Femininity is about embracing and embodying a feminine state of mind. That femininity is then expressed through one’s actions, style, and treatment of herself and others.
Traditionally feminine traits include gentleness, sensitivity, empathy, and sweetness. Of course, these are in great contrast to modern feminine traits that value strength and personal promotion above all else.
Many modern women don’t want to be viewed as sensitive or sweet because they view it as weak and demeaning.
However, none of these traits are negative! In fact, our world could use a lot more empathy and sweetness than it’s getting. It’s a dog-eat-dog world, but traditional femininity was always a way to counterbalance all the negativity.
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